Why Your Clients Aren't Having Breakthroughs

Hey Future Looper!

Let's talk about something that keeps a lot of coaches and therapists up at night:

Why isn't this working?

You've got the training. You've got the techniques. You've even got that fancy certification hanging on your wall.

But sometimes... it feels like you're just not getting through.

(And no, adding more certificates to your wall isn't the answer – though I definitely tried that approach!)

The Hidden Blocker

Here's the thing that took me years to figure out:

The reason your clients aren't having breakthroughs isn't because of your techniques.

It's because you're probably blocking them from happening.

Ouch. I know.

But stay with me here, because this is actually really good news...

The Breakthrough Paradox

Want to know the weird truth about breakthroughs?

The harder you try to create them, the less likely they are to happen.

It's like trying to fall asleep – the more you focus on it, the more it eludes you.

And here's why:

1. You're watching too closely

2. You're pushing too hard

3. You're filling the silence

4. You're rushing the process

5. You're needing it to happen

Any of these feel familiar?

The Real Problem

Here's what's actually happening:

When we're focused on creating breakthroughs, we're unconsciously sending our clients the message that:

• Where they are isn't okay

• They need to change right now

• Something needs to be "fixed"

• We know better than they do

• Their process isn't good enough

And guess what happens when someone feels that pressure?

They close up tighter than a glassblower's kiln during a power outage.

(Sorry, couldn't resist one glassblowing reference! 😉)

The Simple Fix

Ready for the solution? Here it is:

Stop trying to create breakthroughs.

Instead:

• Get genuinely curious

• Create more space

• Trust the process

• Follow their pace

• Let go of the outcome

Sound too simple?

That's exactly why it works.

The Magic of Letting Go

Here's what happens when you stop pushing for breakthroughs:

1. Your clients relax

2. Natural insights emerge

3. Real change happens

4. The process flows

5. You enjoy your work more

It's like that moment in glassblowing when you stop fighting the glass and start dancing with it.

(Okay, last glassblowing reference, I promise!)

The New Approach

Instead of trying to make breakthroughs happen, try this:

1. Listen - But really listen, not just wait for your turn to speak

2. Observe - Watch for those unconscious signals we talked about

3. Repeat - Use their exact words (remember why this matters?)

4. Relate - Connect what you're noticing

5. Ask - Get curious about what's emerging

Sound familiar? (Loopers, you know what I'm talking about!)

What's Next?

Here's your challenge:

In your next session, try doing less.

Way less.

Like, uncomfortably less.

See what happens in the space you create.

You might just find that breakthroughs start happening naturally – not because you made them happen, but because you finally got out of their way.

See you in the loop!

P.S. Feeling a bit called out by this post? That's okay – it means you care about your work.

Drop me a line at [email protected] and let's talk about how Enter the Loop can help you create more natural breakthroughs.

(And yes, that uncomfortable feeling you got reading this? That's your unconscious mind telling you something important... I see you! 😉)

Let's chat about how Enter the Loop can amplify your specific practice.